Advice: Single & Married couples
I want to begin the article with some words of advice to those who are not married: be-careful, and don’t rush into it. The saying is true: great haste makes much waste. Search for a mate diligently. Just like Father, Son, and Holy Spirit are on one accord that is the way a couple should be. Married couples should know each other so well that they are able to finish each other’s sentences. They are so in-tuned with each other, that if asked a question that affects their household, one would be able to make a decision as if the other person were there. They would know what their love one would think. Do we see this in today’s world? No! Ten years into the marriage, one person ends up with a completely different person, and the marriage turns into a disaster!
When you are a Christian, divorce isn’t an option. As God’s people, Christians should lead by example! How does it look to the world when Christians, representatives of Christ, take the divorce route more often than not? The Bible speaks very seriously about divorce and marriage and here are few verses to look at:
Matthew 19:6 says, “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
Matthew 19:9 says, “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery: and whoso marries her which is put away has commit adultery.”
Roman 7:2 says, “For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he lives; but if the husband is dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.”
Why does the bible speak so seriously on this topic? Marriage represents the union between Christ and his church (his people). Ephesians 5:25 tells us, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” The loving way Christ treats us, is the way we should treat our spouse. When we divorce from one another we represent Christ leaving us. Should we give up on one another over a few simple problems we have in our marriage? Should Christ give up on us, every time we sin against him?
Keep the faith. Satan hates unity, and he loves divorce! Which side do you choose? The only excuse for divorce is sexual immorality, and even then should the other person be forgiven. When in a relationship, a person shouldn’t look for ways to get out of it, but ways to stay in. When we sin against God, he is always willing to forgive us, therefore, let us match his actions.
However, if you are not married and having problems now, what makes you think that when marriage comes that things will change? God will give you warnings before the big day, but once you say “I do” this is symbolizing baptism. Divorcing each other is like divorcing Christ.
There is always a resolution to fix the problems in the relationship. Go to counseling meetings with each another; communication is key! Get to know each other well enough so that you can avoid problems. Don’t bring up everything that happened in the past: you are in the present for a reason. The Bible says that we should treat each other the way God treats us. In a relationship there is no selfishness, just selflessness.
Anyways, while there is much to say on this topic, let us conclude with three final tips:
1) Don’t rush into a relationship: you are single for a reason.
2) Be patient, good things comes to those who wait.
3) Last but not least, be loving! Love each other as Jesus loves you! God bless!
